On the day of the recent USA congressional elections, I received a text message from my oldest brother that summoned me home (Greece) immediately. My father was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer in his lower abdomen (one kidney, his liver and his colon) three weeks prior. Instead of the couple of months remaining (as the oncologists had advised us), the prediction was changed to “a matter of days.” I caught the earliest flight to Athens available and Aaron, my spouse, was followed me a day after.
It has been a very emotional week. My father is heavily sedated due to intense pain. He decided that he didn’t want the chemotherapy and radiation treatments and only wanted pain management. My mother and all of my brothers support his decision.
This past Friday, I was able to have some time alone with him. He was awake and I was able to keep eye contact with him. I thanked him for everything he’s ever done for me. I let him know how much I love him and then did our “good-bye” routine. I kissed his forehead.
As I was leaving his hospital room, he made the sign for Aaron. I leaned out into the corridor and got Aaron’s attention and motioned him inside with me.
With great effort, Pop made the international sign for “I love you.”
I then blew him a kiss and had to immediately get out of his room and out of hospital. I’m not at all ashamed of crying. He is, after all, my father – the only one I’ll ever have.
He’s the man who taught me how to love, unconditionally. He’s the man who taught me how to be a man.
I’m still in Greece and Pop is lingering but progressing towards the end.
Naked hugs!
Roger/ReNude Pride
Author’s Note: To everyone who’s blog I follow, if I’ve neglected your site recently, I apologize. This is the reason and I hope to return to my “normal” routine soon. Naked hugs!
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Wishing you all strength during this time.
Comforting hugs,
Sean
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Wishing you peace and comfort.I lost my father similarly 50 yrs ago and I so wisg I had talked more with him before he passed.
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So sorry to hear this – sending you a big hug from afar.
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My heart goes out to you, I am with you in spirit bringing you strength and comfort.
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I’m so sad to hear this, but so thankful that you had the ability and resources to get home to see him. ❤️
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Sending my Love, thoughts, and prayers with you and your family. I’m thankful that you are able to be with your father.
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You are in my thoughts – as inadequate as that is for me to say.
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So sorry to hear of this news Roger. No words can take away the anguish or heartache you and your family are going through. Naked Hugs my friend. xx
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Roger, I just now read this article about your father. I’m very sorry to learn that his condition has taken a worse turn. As you may or may not know, I’m neither a religious nor praying man. However, I do hope for you and your family the most comfort in this terribly sad moment. And, should your father pass, I hope that he be mentally and emotionally at peace, knowing that you, your family, and all others who know and love him, are there in his final moments. Be well, my friend.😔
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My prayers are with you at this time.
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Thank you, Vinneh!
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