All of us are acutely aware of the niceties of manners and how we’re supposed to act and behave when in “polite society” (whatever that is) or when we’re out and about in public. For men, this means sitting with our legs comfortably close together so that we’re not offering a full view of our crotch (genital area). I guess this was a custom so as not to appear too “suggestive” or offensive to any ladies (women) who happened to be present. As a male bare practitioner (naturist/nudist), I understand this logic.
I may not fully agree with it in every situation; but I can appreciate it, especially when in mixed company (both genders). It’s simply being polite and respectful of others. We conform to the norm because none of us want to be perceived as rude. This custom holds true in both naturist/nudist and textile (clothed) gatherings.
But is the same norm applicable in a same gender loving (gay) nude environment?
After all, we’re all gay men in that situation. We’re all men, gay and naked. None of us are surprised by the anatomy of each other – all of us come equipped with a penis. It’s a standard feature of the male package. In a naturist/nudist environment, there’s no way to conceal or hide a man’s penis or to pretend like it isn’t there.
There’s no logical reason for nude men who are attracted to men to sit a certain way when in the company of the same. Let’s be honest, if we really want to see someone’s genitalia, and we’re all bare (without clothes), all we need to do is be patient. Eventually, no matter if we’re seated or standing, the genitals (and everything else) will be in full view of all of us at some point in time.
In all fairness, there are those same gender loving bare practitioners (of both genders) who are modest. As difficult as it may be for some to believe, shyness isn’t an exclusive trait to the textile (clothes-wearing) community. My own husband, Aaron, while a bare enthusiast, is somewhat reticent about his nudity in certain situations. This feeling of modesty among naturists/nudists can be attributed to the way some were raised or simply because of their personal nature.
Of course, there are those who automatically think: Why would a gay man object to seeing another man’s junk (penis)? There’s really no standard answer to that line of thinking except perhaps that it may send out the wrong message to others. Another man in that same situation may see it as “flirting” or a “come on” and trust me, that could very well lead to a most embarrassing and uncomfortable situation for the men involved. Most of the persons who think this way see all nudity as nothing more than a sexual “free-for-all” opportunity and refuse to even entertain the thought that for most, nudity is about comfort and being true to oneself.
No matter what each one of us thinks, there will always be others who disagree. Let’s be honest, regardless of our gender or our sexual attraction, those who subscribe to a differing or opposing point of view on this topic will number in the thousands, if not more. Realistically, there is no way for anyone who is a naturist/nudist to sit in such a way as to not offend or disturb another. If anyone knows of such a posture, please share your solution in the “comments” section below. I, for one, am very interested in learning this!
In the meantime, I imagine we’ll all continue to sit in our preferred pose. Which is exactly what the overwhelming majority of us will do, irregardless.